SASS #14 – Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself


‘Don’t be so hard on yourself’ – easier said than done, right? But not being so hard on yourself and giving yourself a break is something everyone should learn how to do, yet hardly anyone does it.

Imagine your best friend failed a test/ didn’t get a job she went for/ had a really bad breakout. Would you tell her that she should have studied harder/that the interviewer didn’t like her anyway/ that her skin looked terrible? No! Of course not! So why do you tell yourself that? We can be our own worst enemies, yet we should be our own best friends and our number one cheerleaders. Sure, we need help from other people once in a while, but truly loving yourself first means you won’t even need assurance from other people.

That little voice inside your head that says ‘you can’t do it/ why bother/ that wouldn’t suit you’ – shut it down! At the end of the day you are the only person that is going to be there for you throughout your whole life, you might as well make sure that you have a good relationship with yourself. Once you love yourself, everything else will fall into place.

It’s not an easy journey, and I don’t know if I’ll ever make the final destination to loving myself 110%, but it’s the most worthwhile journey you will ever go on. So next time you miss a workout or don’t get everything on your to-do list done, don’t say to yourself ‘I’m a failure’, say to yourself ‘I’ll try better tomorrow! I mightn’t have worked out or gotten everything on my to-do list done, but I did walk to college and finally started that assignment that I’ve been dreading for ages.’ Imagine you’re talking to your best friend! 

True happiness comes from within oneself – we are the only people who know what it’s like to be in our skin, and no matter how many reassurances you get, if you don’t love yourself no compliment or advice will make you truly happy.

So – eat that chocolate bar! Have a lye on! You deserve it.  



  1. rosemaryofelephants
    07/04/2014 / 3:29 pm

    This post is so relatable, and I’m sure for many, many ladies (and gents) these days too. We are all so hard on ourselves but go out of our way to be nice to others, sometimes complete strangers! While it is nice to be friendly, this shouldn’t compensate for the way we treat ourselves. Love yourself, everybody!

    • 09/04/2014 / 5:02 pm

      it’s such a shame that we are all so hard on ourselves, at the end of the day we’re only human! Lovely comment, thank you! x